Creating lifelong connections - one child at a time
December 5, 2019
Candice and Jay Moore of Greeley became licensed foster parents in Weld County in 2016 and had their first placement in January of 2017. Theirs is a partnership based on mutual respect, aligned parenting philosophies and a shared love for helping others.
With no biological children of their own, a lot of love to give and a few extra rooms in their house, Candice and Jay felt drawn to opening their home and hearts to kids in the community who needed a place to call home. Today, they have two daughters who they adopted through foster care.
A Longing to Build Connections
Candice and Jay always knew they wanted to be foster parents based on their experiences growing up. Jay’s grandma adopted a set of three older siblings and worked for an adoption agency in New Mexico. Candice’s mother was adopted as a baby but never met her biological family, which created challenges and a longing for that connection throughout her life. Candice and Jay have always been keenly aware of the struggles foster and adopted children often face and wanted to do something to help.
Over the past three years, Candice and Jay have fostered 10 kids and adopted their two daughters. “Fostering children has opened our eyes to see what we are capable of,” said Candice. They didn’t initially plan to adopt, but when asked by the birth mother of their now 2 ½-year-old daughter (who they cared for while she was in foster care) if they would adopt her baby, “it was an automatic yes,” Jay exclaimed. “Candice and I were overwhelmed by the mother’s unbelievably selfless act and trust in us as parents. It was a no-brainer.”
Jay and Candice adopted their second daughter, who has Down syndrome, through a relationship they developed with another foster family. That foster family connected them with the baby’s birth family before she was born. “Although there wasn’t much time to make the decision to adopt her, it was an easy one to make,” Candice reflected.
The Moore family now consists of their two daughters, two children in foster care and a community of foster families who provide daily guidance, strength, love and support. “Becoming foster parents changed everything for us,” said Jay. “We went from a family of two, to a family of four with multiple kids at any given time, while creating lifelong friendships with other foster families and a community we are blessed to call home.”
The Journey Continues
The rooms in the Moore’s home are not yet filled and they plan to continue serving as foster parents to kids of all ages that need a loving home. They also haven’t closed the door on adopting more children, especially teenagers. They recently began fostering a 16-year-old teen mom and her 3-month-old baby. With a house full of girls, Candice remarked, “the teenager is by far the easiest member of our family.”
Candice and Jay believe that the key to helping teens in foster care is giving them grace and guidance, not expecting perfect obedience. “Building a connection and loving the kids for who they are is more important than handing them a lofty list of rules they must follow perfectly,” said Candice.
As a way of giving back to the community she loves, Candice spends her free time photographing adoptions, foster families and donating her time to the Colorado Heart Gallery as a professional photographer. “I love that almost all the kids I've photographed over the years have been adopted or are in the process of being adopted,” she added.
The last three years have been extremely busy and satisfying for Candice and Jay. They have filled their lives with laughter, love and a deep understanding of the meaning of family. They look forward to what the future brings and continuing to build their family while bettering their community. “The key is to create a connection with the child and to make them feel a part of your family – because they are,” Jay reflected.